Toke Makinwa, the Nigerian media personality and author, has advised women to refrain from sharing their female friends’ personal matters with their male partners. During a recent discussion, she emphasized the importance of maintaining confidentiality and protecting the privacy of friendships. Makinwa highlighted that doing so can help prevent misunderstandings and preserve trust within relationships. Her statement underscores the need for women to be mindful of what they disclose, advocating for loyalty and discretion among friends.
Nigerian media personality Toke Makinwa has addressed a pressing issue affecting female friendships: the sharing of personal information between friends and their significant others. On October 9, 2024, she took to Instagram to speak directly to her female fans, emphasizing the importance of discretion and privacy within these relationships. Makinwa highlighted that safeguarding personal matters can strengthen bonds and prevent potential misunderstandings, urging women to be mindful of what they disclose to their partners about their friends’ lives. Her message reinforces the value of loyalty and trust in female friendships.
She stated, “I’ve got something very important to say, but ladies, I’m going to be tough on you in this video because it’s crucial, so follow along. My best friend contract is between you and me, not you and your significant other. It breaks my heart to see many female friendships deteriorate due to this mistake that many of us women make.”
Makinwa underscored the importance of women protecting their friends, even from their own partners, highlighting that discretion is essential for maintaining trust and strengthening these bonds.
“I understand that he’s your guy, and you two are best friends, and he deserves to know everything going on, but if you truly love your friends and value your friendship, protecting them should be paramount, even above that man,” she explained.
She further elaborated, “If your best friend confides in you about something she’s experiencing, perhaps related to relationships or personal issues, your husband or boyfriend should not be privy to that information. Why? Because he is not her best friend.”
Makinwa emphasized that when a friend shares personal struggles—whether they involve relationship difficulties or life challenges—those details should remain confidential.
She concluded, “Sometimes, you may wonder why your man reacts negatively when you mention hanging out with a friend; it’s because of the things you disclose to him! Just as you protect your man and refrain from airing his dirty laundry to me, you should extend the same courtesy to your friends.”
